 
You're
not alone. Others have felt the
same way you do.
Becoming
a new mother or a mother for the second, third, or fourth time can
be overwhelming for different reasons. Sleep deprivation, adjusting
to the role of motherhood, juggling work and family, learning how
to breast feed, and all the hormonal biological changes a woman undergoes after giving birth are simply incredible.
"Baby Blues"
80% of all postpartum (after giving birth) women experience what
is called “the baby blues.” It is common for women to
feel:
- Anxiety
-
Mood Swings
-
Fatigue
-
Sadness
These
symptoms occur usually a few days to a few weeks after giving birth.
Baby blues is not considered a disorder and usually resolves on
its own. It is time-limited. If the symptoms continue for more than
a few weeks or intensify, it is important for the woman to be aware
of the possibility of an emerging Postpartum Depression, which
requires treatment.
What
is Postpartum Depression/Anxiety?
Postpartum Depression (PPD) is a condition that results from a combination
of factors ... biological, environmental, and psychological. It
is a unique form of Major Depression that can occur any time within
the first year after giving birth.
Its
origins are thought to emerge from several factors which can include:
chronic and severe sleep deprivation, dramatic hormonal shifts after
delivering the placenta, family history of depression, traumatic
birth experience, previous history of depression, grief or loss
issues, and lack of social supports, abuse history, thyroid dysfunction,
abrupt weaning, previous history of PPD. In each woman affected
by PPD, it is difficult to determine the exact cause of the condition.
In some cases, there are no risk factors, such as those mentioned
above, that would indicate a warning sign of possible PPD. The
exact circumstances that each woman experiences PPD are unique to
the woman herself. At times, the origin of PPD is not clear.
The
good news is that PPD is highly treatable. A combination of therapy,
social supports, and if indicated, medication management will lead
to a swift recovery. The sooner the
woman seeks treatment, the sooner she will recover.
The cluster of symptoms of PPD can include:
- tearfulness,
crying spells
- loss of
appetite or compulsive overeating
- lack of
interest in sex or other pleasurable activities
- isolation
from social supports
- irritability
- anxiety,
including panic attacks
- insomnia
- feelings
of hopelessness and a pervasive sense of sadness
- thoughts
of death or dying; sometimes suicidal thoughts
- extreme
guilt (usually about parenting issues but not always)
- obsessive
thoughts (sometimes about the health or safety of the baby or
graphic intrusive images of the harm befalling the baby)
- increased
fatigue
- problems
concentrating and focusing
For
a diagnosis of PPD, these symptoms must be present most of the time
during at least a two week period. In addition, some of the symptoms
mentioned above are unique to PPD, and not Major Depression. Again,
the good news is that the condition is highly treatable, and with
swift action, a woman can be well on her way to recovery.
Although
not all women with PPD feel suicidal, some do. If a woman is expressing
suicidal thoughts she must receive immediate medical attention.
She would need to go the the nearest emergency room or call 911.
Remember
that help is available. Many women do not seek treatment because
of the shame or guilt they feel about not enjoying motherhood at
a time when there is tremendous societal and familial pressure to
be a “perfect mother.” Being a “good enough”
mom and adjusting to one of life’s most momentous role changes
is part of the therapy that is available. Becoming a mother is a
lifelong process that does not end with pregnancy or childbirth.
In addition to individual therapy, support groups can help a woman
to normalize all the feelings she is experiencing and reduce her
sense of isolation.

Other
Postpartum Disorders
A
woman can also experience Postpartum Stress Syndrome (PSS), which
is a self-limited adjustment disorder and not clinical depression.
This condition responds well to supportive treatment and usually
resolves without medication management. PSS can occur any time during
the first year postpartum, as can PPD.
PPD
V. Clinical Depression
The
predominant symptom for many women experiencing PPD is anxiety,
thus differentiating the uniqueness of PPD versus a clinical depression.
Women with PPD can also have panic attacks and obsessive thoughts
that they would not normally experience with a clinical depression.
Likewise, women who have had a history of clinical depression often
describe PPD as being much more intense and frightening than a “typical”
clinical depression.
Postpartum Panic Disorder:
Symptoms can
include ...
- fear, excessive
worrying
- chills or
hot flashes
- nausea
- feeling
of losing control, dying, or going crazy
- shortness
of breath
- restlessness
and irritability
- palpitations
and increased heart rate
- feelings
of detachment from oneself
- sensation
of choking and/or dizziness
- trembling,
sweating, tingling, shaking
- often no
identifiable trigger
- occurs in
about 10 percent of postpartum women
The clinical
description of a panic attack is a discrete period of intense fear
or discomfort (DSM IV) which occurs suddenly and usually peaks rapidly
within a finite period.
Postpartum Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
Symptoms
can include ...
- intrusive
recurrent, repetitive thoughts, often about harm befalling the
baby
- mother often
has a heightened sense of disgust regarding the repetitive images
which often include “mental snapshots” of graphic
injury or killing of baby
- thoughts
(obsessions) often accompanied by repetitive behaviors (compulsions)
to reduce anxiety (for example, hiding all knives in house)
- compulsions
can include checking, counting, and cleaning, among other behaviors
Key difference
between Postpartum OCD and Postpartum Psychosis: A woman experiencing
OCD recognizes that the intrusive, graphic thoughts are irrational
and does not act upon those thoughts or images. However, in PPP
(Postpartum Psychosis) the woman does not recognize the irrational
thinking and may act upon such thoughts, thus indicating a medical
emergency.
Postpartum
Psychosis
Symptoms
can include ...
-
delusions (perceiving things as different from reality) or hallucinations
(hearing or seeing things that others in the current situation
do not)
-
confusion, extreme irritability or agitation
-
disorganized speech or behavior
-
mania and/or delirium
Although
very rare, Postpartum Psychosis (PPP) is considered the most serious
of the Postpartum Spectrum Disorders. The condition affects 1 to
2 postpartum women out of 1000. In some cases, a woman could have
a Bipolar Disorder with Psychotic Features which could also include
the above symptoms. If a woman is exhibiting the symptoms mentioned
above, she should go to the nearest emergency room or call 911.
She and her baby are considered to be at serious risk.

Posttraumatic
Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Symptoms
can include ...
- recurrent
nightmares
-
reliving past traumatic events (for example, of a traumatic birth
experience or perinatal loss or past abuse experience)
-
extreme anxiety
-
hypervigilance
-
intense emotional or physical distress upon recalling the traumatic
event
This
condition can surface in either the mother or father/partner following
a miscarriage, perinatal loss, traumatic birth experience (i.e.
baby going to NICU or extended separation, emergency C-section,
painful birth procedure, death of baby, medical complication of
baby, etc.). If a woman has experienced abuse in her past (i.e.
sexual or physical abuse) sometimes the birth experience can bring
about reminders of an abuse episode(s). Therefore, psychotherapy
is important for the woman’s recovery to help reduce the intrusive
flashbacks and anxiety associated with the condition.
Other tips on recovering from PPD
The most important
concept for a woman experiencing PPD is to remember is that:
- She is not
alone
- Help is
available
-
PPD is temporary
- PPD is treatable!
In
my practice, I have never seen a client whose PPD did not resolve.
It is for that reason, among many others, that I find working with
postpartum moms to be highly rewarding.
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Again,
during the recovery process, women need a combination of psychotherapy,
social supports, and if indicated, medication management from a
psychiatrist who specializes in women’s reproductive mental
health. Furthermore, thyroid levels should be taken to rule out
thyroid disorder, which can also mimic symptoms of PPD.
In
addition, proper nutrition, exercise, and adequate sleep are essential
in promoting a swift recovery. Furthermore, studies are showing
that Omega 3 essential fatty acid supplements are proving important
for “brain health” and maintaining adequate levels of
serotonin (the neurotransmitter that regulates mood). Other forms
of complimentary treatments such as yoga, acupuncture, aromatherapy,
reflexology and massage have also been helpful for many women. As
with any alternative therapy, a woman should always consult her
doctor or health practitioner before proceeding with any form of
the above-mentioned treatments.
Depression
in Pregnancy
About
15-20 percent of pregnant women experience depression. When you
consider how many pregnant women there are on earth on any given
day, that’s a high percentage of depressed women. What contributes
to the stigma of experiencing depression while pregnant and postpartum
are societal and familial pressures that pregnancy and motherhood
should be a glowing time of contentment and joy. For many women,
the feeling is just not that at all…
Symptoms of
depression in pregnancy can include:
- Fatigue
- Appetite
changes
- Poor Sleep
- Irritability
- Mood swings
and heightened emotionality
The
above symptoms can occur in a milder version during any pregnancy.
However, if the woman’s ability to function on a daily basis
(i.e. getting out of bed in the morning, going to work, caring for
other children) is impaired, then it is possible she is experiencing
perinatal depression.
Again,
treatment is available in the form of psychotherapy, and if indicated,
medication management.
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Other Related
Issues can include ....

Perinatal
Loss
It is important
to highlight that the loss of a child due to stillbirth, medical
complication at delivery/postpartum, or miscarriage can contribute
to the onset of postpartum depression in women (and men). Such
a devastating loss has profound consequences for the parents. Grief
therapy is essential and available at EmbraceMotherhood to assist
with such a difficult healing process.
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Fertility
Challenges
As the age of
child-bearing continues to climb higher for many women, it is common
for couples to increasingly experience fertility challenges in their
long awaited journey to parenthood. EmbraceMotherhood provides supportive
counseling and resources to couples undergoing fertility treatment.
Women who have
experienced fertility-related struggles can often develop PPD. The
origin of the PPD can be due to a history of medication intervention,
myths of the perfect motherhood, and being let-down about perceiving
her body as having failed her. Processing the grief associated
with such challenges often surfaces after the baby is born.
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We Can Help
How
Support People Can Help the Woman recovering from PPD:
(Support people
= spouse, partner, family, friends, neighbors)
-
Let her know she will recover
-
Remind her (and yourself) that PPD is not her fault, and she did
not cause this condition
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Have someone go on shifts with baby feedings (if bottle fed) and
allow mother to sleep and take naps or go for walks
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Give mother self-care time to journal, meditate, exercise, get
a massage, etc.
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Provide simple meals (take-out, delivery)
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Remind yourself and her that this hard time will pass. It is temporary.
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Assist with household chores and baby care
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Consider hiring a postpartum doula
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Remind her that you love her and that you will not leave her (women
with PPD are often terrified of abandonment).
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Attend a therapy or medication management appointment with her
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Encourage her to enter treatment immediately. Recovery from PPD
will resolve quicker the sooner treatment is initiated.
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Remind her that recovery will be choppy; in other words, she will
have good days and bad days as she recovers. She will experience
more even moods, and in many cases, will start to feel better
that ever.
-
Do not put a time-limit on recovery. For each woman, the length
of time for full remission of PPD varies – again, the sooner
the treatment is initiated, the sooner she recovers.

YOU
WILL RECOVER!
Say internationally
known perinatal specialists Shoshana Bennett, Phd and Pec Indman,
EdD, MFT in their book, Beyond the Blues.
Key concepts
that Bennett and Indman report as essential to remind oneself of
during recovery:
“I
will recover!”
“I am not alone!”
“This is not my fault!”
“I am a good mom!”
"It is essential for me to take care of myself!”
“I am doing the best I can!” |
The
above affirmations can be written on cards and posted around the
house as the woman recovers.
Bennett
and Indman also recommend “Basic Mom Care” which includes:
- Finding
support people …
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Eating/supplementing with appropriate nutrients …
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Sleeping …
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Exercising …
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Taking breaks …
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Going outside …
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Someone to provide baby care while recovery ensue s…
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Scripts to give helping people …
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For women with anxiety/obsessions: avoid TV news and caffeine
…
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Keep blood sugar level …
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Adjust surroundings to reduce possible hypersensitivity to overstimulation
…

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